By now it is accepted among experts that the only safe and lasting solution to weight loss involves, not a focus on diet and exercise, but on identifying and eliminating / replacing our own self-sabotaging beliefs and attitudes.
This - and nothing else - must be weight loss "Job #1."
But there's a major roadblock in the way: your own ego!
You see, your ego is not very interested in this business of exchanging self-sabotaging beliefs for self-supportive ones. On the surface, that doesn’t make any sense. So how could it be true?
You see, your ego is highly invested in your existing belief structure because it has been involved from day one in the accept-reject process. As such, your ego is attached to your current beliefs—no matter how well or how poorly they may be serving you. The ego is all about maintaining the status quo—the unconscious status quo.
Your ego may or may not be the least bit interested in the truth, because the truth may conflict with the ego’s existing beliefs, and than that would mean rocking the boat. So you need to know going in that there WILL be resistance to ANY new beliefs, no matter how beneficial they ultimately may be. Why? Because the ego has no concept of “later,” and therefore can’t grasp the concept of deferred gratification.
IMPORTANT POINT:
Your ego is not necessarily concerned with your health, your happiness, you love life, your spiritual life, or any of the things your conscious mind may appreciate and desire. In fact, as long as you still have a pulse, your ego is silently saying, “See? Everything is fine. I did a great job. Leave me alone."
The key concept to understand here is that your ego is not necessarily concerned with your health, happiness, etc. How can you tell whether it is or isn’t? It’s easy. Just look at your life. Are you happy, healthy, in-shape, loving, etc? Your ego will always run the show, just like a behind-the-scenes political boss. So if you want to know what your ego is really attached to, just look and see how your show is going.
Question: Do you know anyone who just seems to stay at their healthy weight, month after month, year after year, without seeming to work at it? Well I have a little insight for you.. They're not working very hard at it. Why? Because their egos are attached to being fit, at-weight, and in-shape.
The people who are happy, healthy, in shape, etc., are the ones whose egos are attached to being that way! So guess what? Since the ego runs the show, it automatically creates health and happiness for those folks who have those kinds of ego attachments.
Question: If your ego was attached to health, happiness, etc, do you think your life might look and feel a bit different?
Major Concept:
We really need to understand that the way our lives look and feel are merely physical reflections of out true beliefs and attitudes about ourselves, our lives, about God, and about the universe in general.
You ego is the guardian of your beliefs—past, present, and future. Fighting with your ego is a losing battle. If you are genuinely interested in making ANY positive changes in your life, your job—your challenge—is to get your ego aligned with your healthy, conscious goals by persistent persuasion and reasoned logic. Your ego must fall in love with your dreams and desires.
Otherwise Nothing Will Change!!!!!
Take my word for it. I do this for a living!
Yours in total health,
Dr. Frank
